My book

Hello, here is a book written by myself.
It is about teeagers, attachment and well-being.
It is just in Spanish, however, if you want to check it out, here is a linck

Attachment intervention; evaluating the representational models and / or the
psychological well-being in adolescents.
It was proposed to design, apply and evaluate a focused brief psychotherapy group
in attachment, composed of 8 young people (3 female and 5 male), in ages between 16
and 18 years, chosen with an intentional non-probabilistic sampling. The investigation
It was a field study, with a quasi-experimental design, using the Adolecent
Relationship Scales Questionnair by Scharfe 1999, and the BENSPI-J Scale of Castullo
2002; in pre and post-test measurements. Results of the different ones were compared
measurement moments of each of the groups, evaluating the existence of
significant differences (0.05) with the nonparametric statistical test of
Wilcoxon, without finding significant changes; and correlations were found
statistically significant among the variables using the test of
Pearson correlations.

https://ula.academia.edu/Tahir%C3%ADRojas

APPROACHES TO PSYCHIC PERFORMANCE AND RESPONSIBILITY OF RECIDIVIST VICTIM. CONTENT ANALYSIS

Hello
At the time, I am a PhD Student.
I am focused on a research about recidivist victims. So, Here is an academic article for you

ABSTRACT

In order to understand the psychic functioning of the recidivist victim, there had been done a content analysis focused on experiences made to whole amount of adult recidivist victims served during August and September of 2017 in the National Service of Forensic Medicine and Sciences Mérida was carried out. Recidivist victim is understood as a person who has been victims of the same crime more than once, denounced or not, by the same aggressor or another. It was found that in 66.7% of cases aggression came from a partner or ex-partner. On the other hand, 100% of the cases refer to verbal violence. When violence came from exercised by the partner or ex-partner, as well as a tendency towards physical aggression related to the aggressor mentioned above. Difficulties in the handling of attachments and limits in recidivist victims are hypothesized. Also it is recommended to make a deeper qualitative research in order to reach an explanatory understanding of the object of study.

Key words: recidivist victim, attachment, content analysis

Full text 

http://www.revistas.unam.mx/index.php/repi/article/view/64032

Marriage crisis after moving aboard

Moving a board may be a family project. Maybe you spent long time making it possible to achieve a better future for the whole family.

At the very beginning, all of you were so exiting. But after a while, you start feeling depressed, to make things worse, your notice the same feeling in your partner.

It is getting you apart from each other. You are having very few sex, share few experiences, also, exchanging few words per day.

So, your dream became a nightmare.

Keep calm. It is very common, because both of you are missing your old life, and discovering new experiences that maybe you don’t know how to introduce into your long time marriage.

First of all, I recommend talk clearly with your partner about your feelings.

Second, start sharing new experiences, like practicing a new hobby or doing exercises together.

Last, in the case, after a couple of weeks things are getting worse, please not give an opportunity to lose your marriage.

It is time to look for a professional specialized in couples. I recommend you to look for a good one, because it is a soft issue. From my point of view you can find a good therapist in this page https://www.regain.us/advice/marriage/confidentiality-should-i-seek-marriage-counseling-near-me/

Good look.

In the case you need my help, you can contact me by tahirirojas@gmail.com

Involve your partner into your progress

Well, now, you have some weeks meeting a counselor. Your start getting better. Your life is much happier. However, even though you are thinking clearly, you continue having problems in your relationship.

It is time to involve your partner into therapy for you both and your relationship.

You can say properly it is a good idea, because you are feeling greater now. So, what you can do to persuade your partner is showing she/he some pages where you can find information about couple therapy benefit.

There are many pages in internet for it. But my favorite one is this  https://www.regain.us/advice/therapist/couples-therapy-cost-is-it-worth-it/ so, take a look of it, and try to use it to win round your partner to attend for therapy.

Love history continue

Well, you talk to your partner, but things are not getting better.

Your partner say the problem is yours. So, you understand most of the problem actually is, because you are the one who is living aboard.

You believe it could be great that both of you get therapy, but your partner is not open yet.

So, try remembering the goal: having a nice relationship with this amazing person.

What you really need is solving the problem, instead of proving who is right or not.  What is more, you must be very stress because all the changes you are facing now.

At this point, I honestly recommend you having a counselor in order to organize your life, make your thoughts clear and improve your relationship.

I have noticed that when a partner look for help, the other one follow the step. So, it could bring a long time benefit.

Go for the first step from you. Look for mental health help, and be hopeful your partner will follow you.

You may contact mi for this issue by tahirirojas@gmail.com or you could find also great professionals in this page https://www.regain.us/start/

You are in love, it is a disaster.

Hello

Now, you are involved with this so wonderful person, who is so dissimilar from you. We are talking about a person from a completely different culture. She/he was born in this country which is now your home, consequently, she/he was risen speaking another language, having other habits…

However, you are in love, but most of the time you understand nothing about one´s interest or point of view. You are really making an effort, you are awake that you are the outsider. But, loving should be an experience for relaxing and feeling at home. Now, you do not feel at home never… It is very hard.

First of all, you might try explaining to this person what are you feeling now, but avoiding to blame your partner. You need to communicate what is hart to you, so, my piece of advice is follow the next pathway: talk about what do you think is the reason of the problem, next what do you feel about, what do you believe it is the reason behind the problem and what would you prefer your partner make instead.

Second, keep always in mind that it is never a good idea trying to make your partner feel bad or sad. So, make an effort to use well your words.

Finally, be sure you let your partner know that you want to solve the problem because you love each other.

In case you need more advance, you may contact me by tahirirojas@gmail.com or you can reach many other advices in https://www.regain.us/